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• As we try to change, we will discover within us a fierce struggle between our loyalty to that battle-scarred victim of his own childhood, our father, and the father we want to be. We must meet our childhood father at close range: get to know him, learn to forgive him, and somehow, go beyond him.

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  Loyalty, Children, Father

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• We are intensely loyal to our parents. In spite of the pain we experienced at our parent's hands, we cling tenaciously to their views of life; and their examples of what it is to be a man or a woman follow us throughout life. Acknowledging the power of our loyalty to them, and especially our loyalty to our same-sex parent, is only the beginning of our journey to improve upon their model; but it is at least a first step.

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  Loyalty, Sex, Pain

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• Parenting is a profoundly reciprocal process: we, the shapers of our children's lives, are also being shaped. As we struggle to beparents, we are forced to encounter ourselves; and if we are willing to look at what is happening between us and our children, we may learn how we came to be who we are.

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  Children, Struggle, Identity

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• El matrimonio va a ser ese estado feliz en el que recibimos toda la crianza y el cuidado y el amor y la empatía e incluso los buenos consejos que no recibimos de nuestras familias.

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  Love, Advice, Empathy

  Augustus Napier, Carl A. Whitaker (1978). “The Family Crucible”, Harpercollins

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• Aunque los padres sean más benévolamente serviciales, y aunque pasen tiempo con nosotros enseñándonos lo que saben, rara vez nos dicen lo que sienten. Se mantienen al margen emocionalmente: tal vez fuertes, tal vez cariñosos de forma no verbal, implícita; pero su mundo interior permanece misterioso, invisible. "¿Cómo son realmente?", nos preguntamos. "¿Qué sienten por nosotros, por el mundo, por sí mismos?

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  Fuerte, Hijos, Padre

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• This part of being a man, changing the way we parent, happens only when we want it to. It changes because we are determined for itto change; and the motive for changing often comes out of wanting to be the kind of parent we didn't have.

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  Men, Parent, Style

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• Not only do our wives need support, but our children need our deep involvement in their lives. If this period [the early years] ofprimitive needs and primitive caretaking passes without us, it is lost forever. We can be involved in other ways, but never again on this profoundly intimate level.

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  Children, Years, Wife

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• Aunque la sociedad dicte que los hombres y las mujeres deben comportarse de determinadas maneras, son los padres y las madres quienes enseñan esas maneras a los niños, no sólo con las palabras que dicen, sino con la vida que llevan.

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  Inspiración, Día de la Madre, Niños

  Augustus Y. Napier, PhD (2010). “The Fragile Bond: In Search of an Equal, Intimate and Enduring Marriage”, p.44, Harper Collins

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• The ubiquitous and acutely conscious presence of our adolescents is a major problem, especially since much of their consciousnessseems to be focused on sexuality--ours and theirs. They expect us to ignore them if they are kissing their dates in the family room; but let us so much as wink at one another, and they whistle loudly.

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  Sex, Kissing, Rooms

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